Making Friends as an Adult: A Practical Guide to Growing Your Social Circle
Let’s be real. Making friends as an adult isn’t easy. Most guys are stuck in their routines, surrounded by co-workers they barely connect with or hanging out with the same people they knew in college. And when it comes to leveling up your dating life, business opportunities, or social influence, your current social circle just isn’t cutting it.
At Michael Sartain’s Men of Action (MOA), we don’t just talk about success. We build it by expanding and upgrading the people we surround ourselves with. Your network is your status. If you're not actively building it, you're falling behind. Here’s a no-BS guide to building a powerful social circle that opens doors most men never get near.
1. Understand the Value of Your Social Circle
Your social circle isn’t just about having people to party with. It’s your gateway to:
High-status environments
Preselection from women
Collaboration with powerful men
Elevated lifestyle and opportunity
If you want to attract high-value women, land better business deals, or just level up your quality of life, it starts with being seen in the right rooms with the right people. Your current crew might be loyal. But ask yourself, are they leveling you up or holding you back?
2. Show Up Where High-Value People Gather
You can’t grow your social circle by staying home or hitting the same average bar every weekend. You need proximity to power.
Start with:
VIP events and charity galas
Masterminds and business networking groups
Exclusive gyms, private lounges, social clubs
High-value people don’t waste time. If you want to be part of their circle, you need to be where they are. That’s how Michael Sartain built a network that includes celebrities, entrepreneurs, influencers, and models. He was always in the room where the action was.
3. Be the Guy Who Adds Value First
The fastest way to grow a social circle? Give before you ask. Most guys show up wanting something, attention, validation, access. MOA teaches the opposite.
Here’s what gets you invited back:
Introduce others and become the connector
Offer your skills, knowledge, or support without expecting anything in return
Help elevate others’ status, and yours rises too
When you give value effortlessly, people remember you. And they’ll want you in their circle.
4. Document the Lifestyle You're Building
Social media isn’t optional, it’s your digital proof of who you are and who you roll with. If your Instagram looks like you haven’t left your couch since 2018, don’t expect high-value people to take you seriously. MOA men use their profile as leverage.
Here’s how:
Post content that reflects real-world social proof
Highlight your involvement in cool events, experiences, and circles
Be intentional about showing that you’re a man of action
The more your social media reflects your social status, the more your social circle builds itself.
5. Audit Your Current Circle and Be Willing to Level Up
Not everyone can come with you. And that’s fine. As you grow, you’ll notice some people will get uncomfortable. They’ll resist your momentum. They’ll make you feel guilty for wanting more.
That’s the moment you choose. Stay the same or level up. MOA teaches men to lead their social circle, not follow it. That might mean letting go of some connections to make space for better ones. And that’s not disloyal. It’s strategic.
Final Thoughts
Most guys are stuck in the same place because they’re surrounded by the same energy. You don’t rise without lifting your environment. And your social circle is the fastest way to transform your lifestyle, influence, and dating life.
At Men of Action, we give you the tools to build elite networks, position yourself with high-value people, and attract opportunities effortlessly. You don’t need more friends. You need the right circle. Build it intentionally. Build it with MOA.