How to Get a Girlfriend by Becoming the Man Other Men Want to Be
If you're asking how to get a girlfriend, you're already behind.
Because high-value men don’t chase relationships—they attract them.
Most guys are out here looking for the “right one,” memorizing pickup lines, or overanalyzing text replies. Meanwhile, a select few walk into any room, say very little, and still leave with options—because they’ve become the kind of man women pursue, and men admire.
At Men of Action (MOA), we don’t hand you dating tricks. We give you power.
Here's how to get a girlfriend—not by chasing women, but by becoming the man other men want to be.
1. Stop Looking for a Girlfriend—Start Building a Life She’ll Want to Join
High-status men don’t ask “How do I find a girlfriend?”
They ask “How do I build a life so magnetic she wants to be part of it?”
Shift your focus:
From chasing to attracting
From pleasing women to impressing yourself
From dating strategies to status-building strategies
Women don’t follow men who need love.
They follow men who are already in motion.
MOA Rule: The right relationship shows up when you stop looking—and start leading.
2. Build Confidence By Becoming a Man of Action
Confidence isn’t a vibe. It’s a result.
It’s built by doing hard things, earning your own respect, and showing up as a leader in your own life.
How to build unshakable dating confidence:
Hit the gym—discipline builds dominance
Create a mission—women chase men who are obsessed with purpose
Develop social proof—when people follow you, women follow that energy
Michael Sartain teaches that confidence isn’t given—it’s constructed through momentum and movement.
MOA Rule: Confidence is built by leading. And leaders don’t chase.
3. Upgrade Your Social Circle—That’s Where She’s Waiting
If you’re trying to get a girlfriend through cold DMs and dating apps, you’re playing the game on hard mode.
Women date men they meet through trusted networks.
Here’s what works:
Join high-status environments—fitness groups, charity events, professional communities
Connect with high-value men—your network shapes your positioning
Host your own events—when you become the connector, you become unforgettable
MOA Rule: Women don’t date strangers. They date leaders inside social ecosystems.
4. Become Magnetic—So You Never Have to Convince Her
Trying to win her over with long messages, nice gestures, or soft energy?
That’s not attraction—that’s negotiation.
High-value men attract by:
Owning their presence
Speaking with certainty, not hesitation
Making women qualify themselves, not the other way around
Flip the frame:
Instead of “I hope she likes me,” ask “Do I even want her in my world?”
MOA Rule: The man who makes women prove their value is the one who keeps it.
5. Attract the Right Woman—By Being the Right Man
Stop thinking you’ll attract a high-quality woman by being “nice” or “available.”
You attract her by becoming rare—the kind of man who’s focused, growing, and selective.
What high-value women look for:
Leadership and direction
Emotional control and clarity
A man who already has options—but isn’t reckless with them
You don’t need to “get a girlfriend.”
You need to become a man whose life naturally pulls the right women in.
MOA Rule: She’s not the prize. You are. Act like it.
Be the Man She Can’t Forget—Not the One Trying to Impress Her
If you want a girlfriend, don’t waste time chasing women.
Chase greatness
Chase discipline
Chase becoming the man other men respect—and women naturally follow
At Men of Action, we teach you how to stop looking for love and start leading a life that attracts it.
Because when you become the man she’s always wanted to meet—you won’t be asking how to get a girlfriend.
You’ll be choosing the one who’s actually worth keeping.
Join MOA today and learn how to build confidence, social status, and attraction from the inside out—so you never have to chase again.