Let’s stop lying to ourselves—you don’t have a “talking to women” problem. You have an overthinking problem.
If you’re hesitating, fumbling, or ghosted after the first convo, it’s not because you’re not smart or good-looking. It’s because you haven’t owned your confidence yet. And without that? You’re just noise.
At Men of Action (MOA), we don’t teach you what to say. We teach you how to become the man who doesn’t have to say much to get a woman’s full attention.
When you operate with confidence, clarity, and presence, you don’t “talk to women”—you attract them.
Here’s how to ditch the mental clutter, speak with authority, and finally learn how to talk to women like the high-status man you’re becoming.
1. Confidence Isn’t a Feeling—It’s a Decision
Most men wait for the “right moment” to feel confident. That moment never comes.
Confidence doesn’t hit you—you step into it. You decide to operate like a man who belongs in every room.
Here’s how high-status men operate:
They act before they feel “ready”
They don’t fear rejection—they see it as proof they’re taking action
They move through life like they’re already chosen
MOA Rule: You don’t wait to feel confident—you move like you already are.
2. Stop Trying to Say the Right Thing—Start Owning the Moment
The second you start wondering “What should I say?”, you’re already behind.
Women aren’t judging your sentence structure—they’re judging your energy.
What NOT to do:
Memorize pickup lines
Overthink your opener
Sound like a customer service rep
What TO do:
Be playful: “You look like trouble—I’m probably making a mistake coming over here.”
Be direct: “You stood out, so I had to say hi.”
Be grounded: Don’t speak fast or fidget. Own your frame.
Michael Sartain teaches that women respond to certainty, not cleverness. Your delivery is more powerful than your dialogue.
MOA Rule: It’s not about what you say—it’s about how she feels when you say it.
3. Want Better Conversations? Fix Your Environment
If you’re always talking to women in low-value settings—clubs, DMs, random bars—you’re forcing the conversation.
High-value conversations happen in high-value environments: VIP events, private mixers, exclusive social scenes.
How to instantly upgrade the quality of your interactions:
Get into better rooms—business events, charity galas, elite fitness studios
Surround yourself with people who elevate your image
Be seen with women—preselection boosts your credibility
MOA Rule: You don’t chase conversation—you build a life that attracts it.
4. Don’t Talk Like a Fan—Talk Like a Peer
Too many men approach women like they’re seeking permission.
High-status men don’t do that. They speak to women like they’re already equals—like they’ve been here before.
How to flip the dynamic:
Tease lightly, don’t over-compliment
Challenge her—in a playful, confident way
Hold strong eye contact without apologizing for it
Don’t:
Ask too many approval-seeking questions
Overshare to try and impress
Act like she’s doing you a favor by talking to you
MOA Rule: If you act like she’s above you, she’ll believe it.
5. Let Silence Do the Heavy Lifting
Low-status men panic in silence. High-status men know silence builds tension.
You don’t need to fill every moment. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say… is nothing.
How to master silent confidence:
Pause after she speaks—let her wonder what you’re thinking
Use eye contact and body language to hold space
Don’t rush to prove yourself—make her work a little too
MOA Rule: The more you speak with purpose, the less you need to say.
Confidence Makes Conversation Effortless
You want to know how to talk to women?
Don’t overthink
Don’t chase validation
Don’t play small
Instead:
Speak with intention
Lead the moment
Trust your presence
At Men of Action, we don’t build talkers—we build men of certainty, presence, and power.
Because when you’re high-status, women don’t just listen—they lean in.
Join MOA today and learn how to build your confidence, upgrade your social circle, and lead conversations with women like a man who doesn’t need approval—because he already owns the room.