5 Mindset Shifts to Attract a High-Quality Girlfriend
Targeted Keyword: dating advice, Michael Sartain
Let’s be real. You don’t attract a high-quality girlfriend by hoping, wishing, or memorizing pickup lines.
You attract her by becoming a man she doesn’t want to lose.
At Men of Action (MOA), we don’t teach men to chase women.
We teach them to become the prize. And it all starts with your mindset.
If you're serious about upgrading your dating life, these 5 mindset shifts will change how women see you and more importantly, how you see yourself.
1. From Chasing to Choosing: You’re the Prize
Most guys operate from scarcity.
They see one attractive woman and instantly fall into “chase mode.” That’s weak.
🔥 MOA Rule: High-value men don’t chase women. They filter them.
✔ Shift your focus from “how do I get her” to “does she align with my vision?”
✔ Understand that women value men who have options, not men who beg for them
✔ The moment you realize you’re the prize, your energy changes and so does her attraction
💡 Michael Sartain teaches: If you don’t see yourself as high-value, why should she?
2. From Surface-Level to Lifestyle Attraction
Hot dates don’t lead to strong relationships.
Your lifestyle does.
✔ Women don’t want your attention. They want access to your world
✔ What rooms are you in? Who are your friends? What are your goals?
✔ A high-status lifestyle is 10x more attractive than any outfit or one-liner
🔥 MOA Rule: Build a life she wants to be part of, not one you need to sell her on.
💡 When your world is full of adventure, ambition, and high-value people, she’ll do the work to stay in it.
3. From “What to Say” to “Who You Are”
Forget scripts.
Forget trying to be clever.
If your identity isn’t solid, your words won’t matter.
✔ Build real confidence through results, not affirmations
✔ Stop worrying about impressing her. Focus on expressing your standards
✔ The man who knows who he is never needs to prove it
🔥 MOA Rule: You don’t need to talk like a high-value man. You need to become one.
💡 Women are hardwired to detect authenticity and they’re repelled by insecurity masked as game.
4. From Scarcity to Social Proof
One of Michael Sartain’s core teachings is preselection
Women want the man other women want.
✔ Be seen with attractive, high-value women (even platonically)
✔ Document your social life. It builds trust and intrigue
✔ Host events, attend VIP parties, and leverage your social circle
🔥 MOA Rule: If no one wants you, she won’t either. Let your environment speak before you do.
💡 Confidence doesn’t live in a vacuum. It’s built and reinforced by your circle, your presence, and your value.
5. From Hope to Leadership
Stop waiting for “the right girl” to fall into your lap.
Start leading your dating life like you lead your business, fitness, and mission.
✔ Know what you want
✔ Set boundaries early
✔ Move with direction, not confusion
🔥 MOA Rule: Women don’t follow indecisive men. They follow leaders with purpose.
💡 A man on a mission is 100x more attractive than one who’s just trying to “get a girlfriend.”
Final Thoughts: Upgrade the Mindset, Upgrade the Woman
You don’t need more tricks. You need clarity, power, and presence.
That’s what separates average men from Men of Action.
At MOA, we’ll show you how to:
✔ Cultivate high-status connections
✔ Build a life that attracts elite women
✔ Step into your identity as the man she’s been waiting for
👉 Apply to Men of Action today and turn these mindset shifts into real-world results.
Because when your mind levels up, your dating life follows fast.